Research reveals why people stop faking orgasms

If we stop faking orgasms, it could be a sign that we’ve developed better sexual communication with our partners, the researchers behind a new study explain.

It’s common knowledge that some people fake their orgasms, and this actually applies to both men and women. In fact, about 40% of us have faked an orgasm at some point in our lives.

But what does it really take to stop faking? This is something that a new study from the University of Copenhagen sheds light on.

The study, titled “Why did you stop? Reasons for stopping orgasm faking and its association with sexual, relationship and life satisfaction in Denmark, Finland, France, Norway, Sweden and the United Kingdom” is published in the Journal of Sex Research.

“The most popular reasons why men and women stop faking orgasms include greater comfort with not having an orgasm, an improvement in telling the partner about one’s sexual desires and desires, or having a partner who pays attention to one’s desires,” says Ph.D. candidate Silvia Pavan, one of the authors behind the study.

In other words, better sexual communication about desires and preferences and acceptance of not always achieving orgasm are crucial when it comes to stopping orgasm faking.

Faking orgasms is not without consequences for ourselves and the sexual partner. It can significantly affect the relationship and could be a sign of deeper problems, according to the researchers behind the study. That’s why it’s important to understand both the reasons why this happens and why we ultimately stop faking.

“Faking orgasms is a widespread behavior and in some cases faking can be a symptom of dissatisfaction and that can be a call for change, with the aim of improving one’s own well-being,” says Pavan.

“It may be a symptom of something that is not working optimally for the person faking it. For example, they may be dissatisfied with the sexual activities undertaken with a partner, place an emphasis on achieving orgasm during sex, or have from an unresponsive sexual partner.”

The research is based on a survey of almost 12,000 respondents from Denmark, Finland, France, Norway, Sweden and Great Britain. About 51% of men and women in the study had never faked an orgasm, 27% had faked orgasms in the past but had since stopped, and 13% were still faking orgasms at the time the data was collected. were collected.

Among those who fake orgasms, many only use sex toys

The survey asked respondents about their use of sex toys. They found that those who fake orgasms, many only use sex toys. Conversely, among those who had never faked an orgasm or stopped using it, they reported using sex toys with a partner.

While these results represent an early stage for research into orgasm faking, researchers speculate as to why sex toy use is becoming so widespread.

“Perhaps those who fake are dissatisfied with sex with their partner, and seek pleasure and the chance of orgasm through solo activities. The group that uses sex toys with their partner may want to incorporate new elements into their sex life, keep an open mind and feel comfortable exploring with their partner,” says Pavan.

The researchers also hope to normalize discussions around sex toys, highlighting that they can be a fun and useful addition to someone’s sex life.

“Denmark is a more open-minded country when it comes to sex, but in other parts of the world this may not be the case. Sex toys can be a valuable addition to one’s sex life and can be helpful for people with sexual dysfunctions,” says Pavan.

“It would be great if this research could help normalize healthy sexual behavior and the understanding that sex can be beneficial to our health,” she says.

Currently, there is little knowledge about why we stop faking orgasms. The researchers believe it is important to gain more insight into understanding behavior that can have an impact on our relationships.

“We found that faking orgasms was associated with lower sexual, relationship and life satisfaction. Combined with the results that approximately 40% of the sample have faked at some point in their lives, this suggests that faking orgasms deserves research attention because of its potential implications for people’s happiness and well-being.”