The divorce of Teddi Mellencamp and Edwin Arroyave was a long time coming

Teddi Mellencamp was in a rocky place with her estranged husband, Edwin Arroyavebefore she filed for divorce.

“It’s been a long time coming and they’ve been up and down over the last seven years,” said a source close to her The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum, 43, tells exclusively We weekly. “This isn’t the first time Teddi has wanted a divorce, and it has been an ongoing conversation between them for years.”

The insider notes that the now-exes have “been in therapy over the years and it’s working,” adding, “They’ve had some really highs and some really low lows over the course of their marriage.” Ultimately, “they agree that they are better as co-parents and can move forward amicably,” the source says.

Mellencamp announced via Instagram on Saturday, November 2, that she had made the “difficult decision to file for divorce” from 47-year-old Arroyave, after 13 years of marriage. “My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken for their privacy and well-being during this new chapter.”

She continued: “Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do, but in an effort to protect my family from unnecessary speculation and rumors, I felt that being open, honest and vulnerable was the best way forward.”

Mellencamp and Arroyave married in 2011 and share children Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, 4. Arroyave welcomed his eldest daughter, Isabella, during a previous marriage. Arroyave praised his current ex with a piece of candy Instagram post just a week before she announced she had filed for divorce.

“I always say that life and pain are inextricably linked. And seeing @teddimellencamp embrace her pain and use it for the greater good again last night at the @curemelanoma gala was a beautiful reminder of what she is capable of,” he wrote alongside photos of himself and Mellencamp — who opened up about her struggle with skin cancer – at the Cure Melanoma Gala in New York City on October 25. “Her story has already saved lives. And I couldn’t be prouder that she will continue to save more. I love you, Teds. So much so that I missed the Rams game to be there 🤣).”

Mellencamp’s divorce papers, filed on Friday, November 1, and obtained by Usrevealed that the two had split before attending the NYC event – ​​their separation date was listed as October 20.

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Teddi Mellencamp may have a diamond on TV, but her husband and children are the real gems in her life. The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star and husband Edwin Arroyave are parents to daughter Slate and son Cruz. The founder of Skyline Security Management is also the father of daughter Isabella from a previous relationship. […]

Arroyave has not yet publicly discussed the divorce, but has since shared a photo of himself taking the former couple’s children to church. He has also posted several Bible verses about parenting via his Instagram Story.

Mellencamp, meanwhile, was spotted wearing her wedding ring just hours after posting her divorce announcement online. She spoke about the breakup on the Tuesday, November 5, episode of her and Tamra Judge‘S Podcast ‘Two T’s in a Pod’with the message: “I’m doing well.”

Focusing on the future, she continued: “I know I will continue to work on feeling my best so that I can show the best for my children, my life and my work. I think that’s the most important thing for me right now.”